Even if your sex life is already fulfilling, it’s natural to desire to improve it. Maybe your love life has been stagnant recently, or maybe you’re already enjoying fantastic sex but want to start experiencing even more earth-shattering, mind-blowing sex sessions that finish in toe-curling orgasms. My friend, you’ve arrived to the correct location.
We combed through hundreds of Men’s Health sex and relationship articles to uncover the best sex advice we’ve ever offered. These suggestions come from a variety of doctors, therapists, and specialists in sexual health, pleasure, and intimacy from around the United States.
Maybe you want to improve your erections, strengthen your orgasms, and last longer in bed, or maybe you want to improve your ability to please your partner. Perhaps you’d want to learn more about anal play, which sex toys are best for couples, or how to discuss your darkest sexual dreams with your partner. Perhaps your sex life has become monotonous, and you’d like to try some BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) or even locate a third to play with. Whatever the case may be, we almost likely have some advise that can help.
So, without further ado, here are our 25 finest expert-approved sex advice and practices. You’ll be able to thank us later.
Use your tongue with caution.
When kissing, avoid using your tongue like a dart (in and out, in and out). Instead, experiment with different motions and pressure levels. More advice on how to perfect your kissing technique may be found here.
Perform kegel exercises.
You’re not alone if you wish to endure longer during sex. “Almost every man will have premature ejaculation at some point in his life,” Thomas J. Walsh, M.D., a urologist at the University of Washington, told us. Kegels are one approach to postpone ejaculation. Strengthening the pelvic floor’s pubococcygeal (PC) muscles will help you manage your orgasms during sex. Click here for instructions on how to do these, as well as additional strategies to stay in bed longer.
Play around with the edging.
Another method for making sex last longer? Train yourself to postpone your orgasm while masturbating. Edging is a typical technique for avoiding premature ejaculation. It involves bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm and then ceasing all sexual stimulation.
Consider a cock ring.
The cock ring has been dubbed the “superfood of sex toys” since it is inexpensive, simple to use, and can improve your sex life in a variety of ways. A snug ring that fits around the base of your penis (and sometimes your testicles) can help to increase your erection, raise your confidence, and enhance the force of your orgasms. If you choose a vibrating option, it may even aid stimulate your partner’s clitoris or booty.
Masturbate with one another.
Too frequently, we conceive of “sex” as penis in vagina or anus, but that’s a really limited picture of what sex is. Enter mutual masturbation, which is masturbating with your spouse. It’s not only useful for when you’re too tired to put it on, but it also teaches you how your spouse touches themself. That way, the next time you have coupled sex, you’ll be able to touch them exactly how they want!
Choose a condom that feels good.
According to sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, if you dislike the way condoms make you feel during sex, you might not be wearing the correct ones. When choosing a condom, opt for one that fits like a glove and rubbers that are ribbed or ultra-thin. Condoms are incredibly successful at preventing pregnancy and STIs, so it’s worth experimenting to find the one that feels the most comfortable for you. Click here for product recommendations.
Prostate massage is one option.
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland positioned between the bladder and the rectum that contains an abundance of nerve connections. It can feel so fantastic to stimulate the prostate that some sexual health specialists have dubbed it the “P-spot” or “male G-spot.” Here are some pointers to help you identify it, as well as our picks for the top prostate massagers on the market.
Investigate temperature play.
“Temperature play is a technique that uses heat or cold to stimulate the skin and elicit a sensuous sensation,” Ashley Cobb, Lovehoney’s Sex Toy Matchmaker, explains.
To generate a tremendous sensory response, engage in wax play in the boudoir, or rub an ice cube on your partner’s body (nipples are extremely sensitive!).
Make use of a butt plug or anal beads.
These butt-centric sex toys can also stimulate the prostate during partner sex or masturbation, as well as activate the sensitive nerve endings at the anus entrance. Butt plugs are designed to glide in and stay in place (thus the term “plug”), whereas anal beads can be inserted or pulled out gradually over the course of a sex session. Check out our finest butt plugs and anal beads in these roundups.
Lubricate everything.
“Lubrication improves the comfort and speed with which you can penetrate the vagina and grind against the clitoris,” said Ellen Friedrichs, M.A., an adjunct professor of human sexuality at Rutgers University. “However, no matter how turned on a woman is psychological, she may have difficulty getting wet.” This is where lube comes into play. Before you begin intercourse, try squeezing a few drops onto the tip of your penis.
We all watch porn together.
Let us let you in on a little secret: many women enjoy watching porn. According to a Men’s Health poll, 75% of women stated they were willing to watch porn with a partner during foreplay or intercourse. However, they may not be interested in the same type of video you are, so be sure to explain your preferences ahead or seek out some softer-core fare. (A good place to start is director Erika Lust’s LustFilms.)
Don’t rush to the intercourse.
Sex isn’t a sport. Before you engage in intercourse, spend some time getting to know your partner. It will not only increase desire, but it will also help you discover what you and your spouse like and dislike in bed. “On its own, sex is quite mechanical,” said Tracy Thomas, Ph.D., a psychologist and relationship therapist. “Foreplay is where you discover what you like and dislike.”
During foreplay, do not instantly head south.
The genitals are off-limits during foreplay. Touch various parts of your partner’s body using your fingers, a feather, a silk scarf, or whatever turns them on—and ask them to explain how it feels. This heightens the tension until you’re both ready to erupt. Check out our advice on how to avoid botching your next foreplay session.
Allow yourself some leeway when it comes to foul talk.
Do you want to discover if your partner likes to gossip? “You make me imagine nasty ideas,” you could say. Slowly ease into it. It’s better to tread lightly at first, rather than launching into your deepest, kinkiest nasty talk right away. Here’s our guide to naughty chat in bed.
Play some roleplaying games.
Roleplaying necessitates a significant suspension of disbelief, but the payoff can be enormous if you can fully engage. Many popular roles (boss/secretary, teacher/student, stripper/customer) revolve around the idea of one person being in charge and the other being at their mercy.
