The Most Serious Error You Make in Bed

According to a recent survey conducted by the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada and Trojan condoms, cuddling after sex may be one of the simplest methods to keep her coming back for more.

Researchers surveyed 2,400 Canadians about the last time they had sex for the survey, which is being peer-reviewed for publication in scholarly publications.

71 percent of women who snuggled for 6 to 10 minutes after intercourse described their whole experience as “extremely nice.” In comparison, only 41% of women who cuddled less did so.

According to research author Robin Milhausen, Ph.D., a professor of human sexuality at the University of Guelph, post-sex intimacy was just as crucial to women’s satisfaction as foreplay.

According to Milhausen, this could be because after sex, women’s (and men’s) bodies are filled with oxytocin, the bonding hormone, which causes them to seek more intimacy.

In addition, she claims that women frequently feel vulnerable after having sex. Spending a few more minutes in bed touching her reassures her that you love her.

“It’s one of the simplest ways to strengthen your relationship,” Milhausen says. “It’s a critical, but frequently overlooked, opportunity for connection.”

The majority of participants in the study fell short of the 6-minute mark: 17% did not snuggle at all, and 36% did so for less than five minutes.

Milhausen proposes that after your next romp, you pull your spouse close to you or have her put her head on your chest.

Spend at least 6 minutes playing with her hair, rubbing her back, kissing her on the face or forehead, and complimenting her on how good it feels to be with her.

(Don’t know what to say? (For more ideas, see the 30 Hottest Things to Say to a Naked Woman.)

What is the benefit to you? According to the survey, cuddling increased men’s contentment as well.

And because cuddling makes your spouse feel better about your relationship, Milhausen believes she’ll be open to more sex in the near future.